Take Intentional Action

A Research Project of

Charlyn Green Fareed, Ph.D. 


Focus on one area where you feel most impacted.  Then take action via daily practice.  If you feel it's more than one, take one at a time.


When you share you're "tired," take a moment to reflect on in what way: emotionally, physically, or "tired" related to everything going on in your life.   Share where you are with someone you trust, then choose to get the support you need.   Use the Feeling Wheel by  Dr. Gloria Wilcox to locate just how you're REALLY feeling vs just saying, "I'm good."



Take time to "watch" yourself.  If you find yourself consistently taking care of/worrying about everyone else and putting yourself last, (self-sacrificing) begin to practice small daily habits of taking care of self first!  Use the "airplane mask" analogy; you first, then everyone else.  You're not good to anyone else unless you've taken care of what you need to replenish your well.  Assess your needs a few times during the day using HALT:  Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Then do what you need to do for you!

Treadmill/Constant Striving:  

If you find yourself often doing too much, schedule is full, don’t know when or how to stop; take an intentional pause!  Take some deep breaths, sit quietly for a few minutes and do a body check in.  Start from the top of your head, then work your way down to your feet.  Focus on areas of tension and breath it out!  Take a nap in the middle of the day, shut down your computer at a reasonable hour, practice saying "no" - "nope."  These are complete sentences!  Think about what works for you to slow yourself down; then take small, meaningful steps daily.

**Reminder:  These behaviors are culturally embedded over generations via Mother models, so be gentle with yourself as you "rewire" and incorporate healthier behaviors and ways of living.



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